Friday, October 17, 2014

12 courageous acts of leadership

I found this article on the blog. I think it has some great tips that I wanted to share...

12 courageous acts of leadership:
  1. Doubt first thoughts and question intuitions.
  2. Extend trust.
  3. Stop talking and listen.
  4. Let others be right.
  5. Ask awkward questions.
  6. Confront issues that hurt others.
  7. Challenge average in order to pursue exceptional.
  8. Comfort.
  9. Connect.
  10. Say, “I was wrong. Please forgive me.”
  11. Surrender control while remaining responsible.
  12. Honor the success of others without mentioning your contribution.
Bonus: Explore rather than defend.

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Fellow E-book readers

I love to read and love reading all kinds of books.

I just figured I would share a few websites that I have signed up to receive daily emails with discounted or free e-books. I love both these websites. I get the email each day and look through the list. Some days I don't download any books, but some days there are a few from each email that I get.

So, if you are interested the websites are:

BookBub - and the link to get there can be found here.

Free Kindle Books - and the link to this one can be found here. For this one, scroll to the bottom of the screen and there is a link to sign up for email. On this email, most of the books are free. If you look at the email the next day the price of these books have changed. Some might still be free, but the others will be priced differently. So, be sure if you are wanting the free book to look at the price before hitting download!

I hope you enjoy as much as I do...

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

MOMcon Session 5

I am sad that this was our last session... But it was a great session! There were 2 speakers from this session... The first is Angie Smith and the last is Sherry Surrant who is our MOPS CEO and president!

First up was Angie Smith:
He sent me here to be me and I am enough. And I am NOT alone. We are all fighting the same fight. You are a beloved daughter of His. You need to learn to live in the now. Let go of things that happened in the past. It doesn't matter the bad and issues that happened in the past. Now is being choked by yesterday and strangled by tomorrow. You need to be there and stop missing it, (LIFE!)

It's enough. Do you believe that. You are enough. YOU ARE ENOUGH! You are enough. 

It's so hard to be here now. It's reality. We try to escape as much as we can. Enjoy life for what it is. No matter how hard the season is. Thank God for this exact moment He is giving me. 

You can't see the whole picture. But you can see today. If you listen, every moment you will hear a word: SCENE... God is the director of your life! Today is just another scene in your life.

You might not be able to see the future but focus on today. God is with you. 

God was not looking for the perfect mom. He wants the mom who knows HE is perfect. Things might not be good, but He is.

We were handed a clothes pin during this session and here is what she said about that:
Use the clothes pin to pin your moments. LIVE EACH moment with your children no matter what is going on. Pin the moments and THANK GOD for that moment and say it's enough and I am enough!

Live exactly where we are... not for ourselves, but for HIM!

Next up was Sherry Surrant:

Fear makes us want to run and hide. Satan makes the fear grow so much. Satan makes things seem so big. 

MOPS verse says = Do not dwell in the past!
  • I am doing a new thing.
  • God is speaking new things into your life.
God is calling some to be Bravely, generous.
God is calling some to be Bravely, financially.
God is calling some to be Bravely, Honest.
God is calling some to be Bravely, Free!

- Have that conversation with Him today. 

Why are you trying so desperately to fit in when He has called you to be bravely!
Don't miss this chance to be a woman who says yes when God calls. Heart and soul! 

What could your brave look like?
What WILL your brave look like?
You and God will decide what your brave looks like. Continue to work on it with Him. 

You will hear negative voices that says you can't do something. Whose voice will you listen to. Yours, Satan's or God's voice. 

God will hold your hand along the way!


MOMcon Workshop D

Raising Girls - What our daughters need to hear
By: Alexandra Kuykendall

We are the ones to tell them who they are!
You are the model for them... show them who you are and they will watch you as you go.
So, Be you, BRAVELY!

Girls Brain
- Earlier Hemisphere Development
- More Serotonin
- More Oxytocin
- Higher Sensory Intake

Estrogen - The "she" hormone
- The most influential hormone on a daily basis
- Named intimacy hormone, creates an urge for bonding, nurturing and communication

We don't want to over protect them so they can be ready to go out into the world when the time comes... 

A great book to read is "Cinderella ate my daughter." It is a great book to read and be informed!

Legos helps with skills in science, etc. 

Bratz are spoiled, sexy and six. 

Am I contributing to her growing up too fast with the things we allow now?

We need to preserve their innocence!

Where are our daughters headed? How am I preparing her for that?


We are their number 1 influence!

A great book to read: Captivating: Unveiling the mystery of a woman's soul by Stasi and John Eldredge

1st thing to do...
- Embrace the princess!

2nd thing to do... 
- Help her discover her talents!
Failure is a god thing because it means you are trying new things!

God created you uniquely. Let's discover who He created her to be.

3rd thing to do...
- Encourage her relationship with her dad!
It's crucial. You can't control their relationship. Encourage alone time with the girls separately. 

Our children learn by how we live. 

Compliment them all the time, especially the dad's. 

Limit media use:
- The more stuff she is exposed to the lower her self esteem image becomes

- The dove self-esteem video is powerful
- We can control what's in the house!!!

4th thing to do...
- Remind our daughters who God says they are!

Again... MOM=MODEL

If we don't believe the things about ourselves, how are they suppose to believe us when we say they are beautiful or awesome or great?

10 things our daughters need to hear:

1. She is chose and dearly loved. (Colossians 3:12)

  • The everyday acting towards them!
  • Quit being distracted and LOVE them. Be excited to see them every second of the day. 
2. She is a citizen of Heaven. (Philippians 3:20)
  • To know that we belong to God.
  • We are HIS and will see Him in heaven.
  • Only answer what she is asking. She doesn't need all the answers right now!
3. She is Christ's friend. (John 15:15)
  • We have to help them navigate the drama of their life. 
  • Remind them Christ is their friend. 
  • Practice role playing if there is conflict.
4. She is Forgiven. (Ephesians 1:7)
  • She is abundantly free. 
  • Don't ignore behavior, but let her know she is forgiven. We need to ask for their forgiveness if we mess up also. 
  • We need to teach them about life and forgiveness is a big part of that!
5. God looks at her inner beauty. (1 Peter 3:3-4)
  • What traits do we want to cultivate. 
  • Remind her what God cares about. 
6. She uniquely reflects the creator. (Genesis 1:27)
  • We recognize what is important to her. 
  • Watch our words about them and ourselves. 
  • If your trying to lose weight talk about being healthy and not about being skinny!
  • (Remember they are watching you and being just like you!)
7. She has special gifts and talents. (Romans 12:8)
  • Broaden our ideas. Let them do what they want with full passion. 
8. She is responsible for her actions. (2 Corinthians 5:10)
  • Give them consequences when they mess up.
  • She is not you. She makes her own mistakes.
9. She is part of a family. (Ephesians 2:19)
  • Your church family counts as part of the family as well. 
  • Your community counts too.
10. She is a messenger of Hope. (Mark 16:15)
  • She is a hope bringer.
Challenge: Look over this list and consider:
- What I have a hard time believing about myself... Is there a coalition between the two.

Good comment from MOMcon...

How others see you is not important... 
How you see yourself means EVERYTHING!

MOMcon Session 4

By: Shauna Niequist

- The way we walk together through Christ.

Words are really important. 
Friends make you brave. 
When your scared, you do it shoulder to shoulder with your friends!

YOU ARE NOT ALONE! No friend is alone... no mom alone!

Your a masterpiece... - Ephesians 2:10

Choose a few people to go extremely deep with your friendships. You can either connect or compare. You can not do both!

You have to appreciate who you are and what you have. Everything we have has been given to us from God. Quit worrying about what other's have and focus on your own life. Stay in your lane. 


You don't need to compare or compete. Water your own garden and watch it grow. Focus on you and your family. It may not be perfect, but it is YOURS! And God has given it to you. 

God made you for a purpose. This is your life and you will miss it if you don't connect but instead compare. Use technology to connect instead of compare. The hard times you are going through, connect with your friends not Facebook!

All the little details don't matter. Sometimes people need you to just be there for them instead of all the little details. BE THERE! Be with them!


Sometimes it takes time and set expectations. When there is conflict and confession you are getting deeper. It's normal. It's an opportunity to grow in that life. 

Don't ever be afraid of conflict. Be afraid of NO conflict. Handle conflict in private and at the moment it happens. 

Friendship teaches us how we should treat ourself. Friendship grabs you by the hand and reminds you that you are loved. 

Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness, 
will we discover the infinite power of our light!

MOMcon Session 3

Session 3 by Lisa Chan

BE YOU BRAVELY: There is only one YOU!

What is unique about you?

Most issues you have could be spiritually based. If you are great in your spirit, things will be good. 

How spiritually connected are you?
Is your goal to be a great wife and mom instead of a great daughter of God?

We are here for God. Not for anything else. Are you in it with God?
He is by your side every step of the way. 

God has called you for so much more. He has invited us in. He wants more from you!

We need to engage ourselves with the truth of the word. There is freedom in following Christ! You need to take the time to be with Jesus. We need to be in touch with God's heartbeat. Ask God questions daily... 

Jeremiah 2:13

God has everything you need. Quit putting him on the back burner. You need that time with God. GOD'S LOVE NEVER STOPS! Without water we will die. Jesus is the spring water that never runs out. It is your choice to take Him in and get filled up. Don't forget about God. We have to fight to keep our eyes on Him. 

God always gives you what you need. You just need to ask for it. 

It doesn't matter what you think about yourself. It only matters what HE thinks about you. Only you can be brave and offer your life to God. God's grace is sufficient enough for ME!

Taking a step of faith is not always perfect. Trust in Him. 

MOMcon Workshop B

This workshop was Rest and Rhythms of Life by Deidra Riggs

She said that she uses the app Pray as you go daily. When she can't get her time with the bible, she will use this and at least get some time in...

REST and SLEEP are NOT the same thing.

Richard Foster wrote a book called "Prayer." She said it was a great book!

God is eternal.
We live in time, not Him!
Your season of life will change. PRAY.
A new season is coming... Hang in there!

The story of Noah: Means rest.

Rest is a solid place for your feet to land. It is not always about sleep.

Exodus 33:14
My presence will go with you and I will give you rest!
Type of rest here is permission to release.

His presence is going to be with you.

We are on a journey with God. Every day God needs to get into your heart and find rest there!

EXPECTATIONS = FAILURE (You are NOT a failure)
- This is something I struggle with. I expect things to go a certain way and if they don't I am upset or disappointed. I am working to quit having such high expectations so I will not feel this way. I am also working to live life to the fullest and trying to give the worries/stresses to God.

We need to find a solid place to rest. He will help us find peace. Then we can focus on our relationship with God.

God wants us to cling to Him. We can't do that if we don't give him the time. Find the time and the space to find peace and to have your time with God.

Let all the stresses go and find rest in Him.

Your relationship with God is personal. You do it whenever you can and you do it together. Your rest will change from day to day. Sometimes all you have to do is just go out for a walk...

Another good book to read is "Spiritual Pathways."

Give yourself permission to rest! God gives you the permission, so why can't you give yourself that?

MOMcon Session 2


The speaker for this session was Jennie Allen. Here are the notes I took during this session:

NOTHING changes us more than a glimpse of God our savior. 

  • We are doing HIS work.
  • Our mom's want something more. We are the way to introduce them to Jesus.
We have made ourselves small. We have felt invisible and unimportant. At the end of the day you are exhausted and run down. You don't feel free! YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

What are you fighting that no one else can see?

Everyone is fighting something. No one is alone. We are all broken and need HIS help. We need God. 

Fight the Fight for God. Everyone needs to wake up. 

What do you believe about:
  • Yourself?
  • Your circumstances?
  • our God?
You need to get healthy and free. Pray with your kids together!

I believe you are enough. 

Bible verses she said to read that goes along with this:
- 1 Peter               - John 1, John 8, John 10, John 13, and John 17
- Matthew 5          - 1 Corinthians
- Romans 5 and 8   - 2 Corinthians 2, 2 Corinthians 5 and 2 Corinthians 12 
- Joshua 1             - Ephesians 1, Ephesians 4 and Ephesians 6

We are a mighty courageous strong women. Do not get weary. DO not pull out. 

People will not feel our souls. God is the only one that can do that. There is more... BE with Jesus!

Monday, October 13, 2014

MOMcon Workshop A

The first workshop I went to was called "Menu for Raising Children" and the speaker was Deborah Tillman from the Lifetime series called Super Nanny. Her entrance was absolutely amazing. She came in dancing and singing to Brave by Sarah Barallis. She got the whole room to get involved and had ladies singing with her. It was very amazing to be in this workshop.

During the beginning before she started speaking the voice of Larry from Veggie Tales got up and told us about the new series from Netflix they are starting in a few months. He showed us a preview of the Netflix series and then he sang a hair song. It was funny and awesome all at the same time.

And then her workshop began... Here are my notes...


I am a parent. My purpose is to train. I will be what God wants me to be. So that I can do what God has called me to do. Time out for fear, doubt, guilt and shame. After this MOPS conference, I will never be the same. In Jesus' name. AMEN!

The year you were born and the year you die... The dash is what is most important between those 2 dates. It's the stuff in between that matters! God has blessed us with these little moments and these little ones to cherish and enjoy during those years.

The two most important days of your life are the days you were born and the day you find out why.

Habakkuk 2:2
And the Lord answered me, and said, write the vision and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it.

When you operate in God's vision so many things will open up!

Raising today's children requires purpose. Read these: Proverbs 22:6 and Ephesians 6:4


God created us fearfully and wonderfully made.

Start with PARENT:

Fear keeps us from doing all that is needed!

Start with you!
Lay aside every weight:
- Guilt
- Fear

Don't be afraid to raise your children. You are doing it with God's help.

What do your kids really need?
Love to them is spelled TIME!

You need to change you! There are no perfect parents.

MOVE on = Letting go of your past

Be present in your child's life!

Follow your ABC's (Speak Positives)

A is for Attitudes - how we think (Proverbs 22:7)
- Expect the best
- Aim High
- Give children encouragement

B is for Behaviors - how we act (life and death, Proverbs 18:21)
- Evaluate your words
- Speak life
- Change your tone

C is for Choices - how to live (by faith - Romans 12:1-2)
- Enjoy the journey
- Turn off technology and tune into YOUR children
- Model the behavior you want them to have

Children want attention. Give them the positive attention. Speak life to your children.

Believe God... LET GOD!

As long as you can look up, you can surely GET up!

You are teaching your children by your behavior!

Friday, October 10, 2014

My favorite from MOMcon

I went to the conference for my MOPS group called MOMcon. I will write more about my time away when I get a few minutes this weekend. One of my favorite things from the weekend was Amena Brown's presentation of this poem... She was amazing as she presented it to us mom's. It was absolutely breathtaking!

By Amena Brown...
You start the day
With a few moments to pray
A few seconds for thank you
Before the chaos hits
Before the minutes get spent on playing all the roles you play
This great God
Gave you one of the most important jobs
To help mold and shape your little birds
To build a nest
Until they learn to fly on their own
On any given day
You are mom, wife, doctor and nurse
Counselor, CEO, "let mommy see where it hurts"
Coach and referee
Disciplinarian, chef, event coordinator
Accountant and creative
Teacher and attendee of tea parties
Many days
You are a supershero with no cape
Just flats, jeans, sneakers, and yoga pants
Ready to answer the mom signal at any time
You are also a woman
A feeling, breathing, thinking, dreaming woman
Motherhood may have brought you a few extra curves
But it also taught you the power of words
Of knowing your limitations
Of finding strength and resting in weakness
That you are more than your morning routine
Or all of the thoughts that invade your mind before you try to sleep
You were made for adventure
Not the kind where we put on a brave face just to save face
In the face of insecurity and laundry and worries
God wants you to find the courage to be yourself
To remember the calling and the dreams
To remember the seeds he planted in your heart
To remember it only takes one step to start
To remember out of all your roles, hats, jobs, titles
You are first the daughter of an everlasting father
Who holds your hand at the precipice of all of life’s steep hills and dangerous cliffs
Who when the wind is whipping at your ears
And your mind is filled with can’ts, won’ts, and should I’s
Reminds you that he’s with you
He is the one who makes you brave
He is the one who helps you face the day
Gives you strength
Gives you permission to be weak
Gives you the boldness to speak
A quiet place to breathe
Ears to hear the heart
Eyes to see the dreams
We all long to be rescued
But we are not Lois Lane searching for Superman
Or Gotham on the look out for Bruce Wayne
The hero we live for has no flaws
No weakness
No kryptonite
He is love, mercy, and sacrifice
Conqueror of death
Creator of life
The Hero of all heroes
The inventor of time
He is with you
You are not alone
He wants to walk with you daily
So today, take a step
Be you, bravely.

She was not born...

C told me last night that she was NOT born grumpy.

Oh how I love her.

So close to 40...

It is so funny how 2 different people can see 6 years totally different...

C says to me last night that I am 34. I look at her and say yes baby girl, I am. She says wow... you are almost 40. I was like ummmm NO I AM NOT! She says, well really you are.

And she is so true. To a 6 year old 34 is so close to 40... but to me who is 34 it feels like a lifetime away from me reaching 40.

Costco foods...

We went to Costco the other day and did a little bit of shopping. We needed something for dinner so we decided to grab dinner there. We ended up getting a Ravioli Lasagna and a Caesar salad....

I put it in the oven and while it is cooking, it fills my home with the best smelling pasta ever. My mouth was watering as it was cooking. It finally is done cooking and I take it out of the oven and it looked so beautiful...

After my 6 year old eats, she says to me... "Momma, this was the best dinner I have ever had in my life!"

Thank you Costco, for giving my daughter a chance to enjoy the best dinner she has ever had in her 6 years of  LIFE!